-my husband , myself, and my 7 month old son live with my husbands parents. when i moved in i thought this was the greatest thing ever cuz where i was before i wasnt being treated right. my mother in law and i were best friends before i moved in. but when i moved in she turned on me! shes awful to everyone, she drinks every night, she is always trying to make herself seem perfect and right and making everyone else feel like they are below her and that we can never measure up to her standards. she wouldnt have a 3 story house if it wasnt for her husband. she doesnt work, nor does she try to get a job. she watches her grandson...and they are obsessed with each other. she will do anything for him, but for my son who is also her grandson she wont. she barely even pays him any attention. my husband works in attics and basements doing hvac work all week and when he comes home she makes him go out and do stuff for her just so she doesnt have to. she claims she does so much but she doesnt, the most she does is throw a meal together and claim she slaved over it and she will vaccum. if you do the dishes for her and they arent done like she wants she flips out and then she re-does them, she always leaves her clothes in the wash and someone has to do them for her and then she complains about that too and then re-folds them in front of u. when i was just trying to help her. and if i happen to leave something in the wash she just throws it in the basket. she always picks on me cuz i am not tan like her, but i dont care if im tan. she said she would rather die skinny and tan then be fat and pale.. thats why she smokes. she drinks on the daily, every night...she calls it her dinner? she always has something bad to say about my family. always things that offend me cuz they have done nothing to her at all. she talks to me about it like it shouldnt bother me. shes always picking on me or trying to make me feel like im not good enough. and her son which is my husband...she always boasts about him and how hes the best son cuz he helps everyone but if he gets caught up and cant do one thing she says she talks about him like hes a worthless piece of trash. no one in the house can stand her cuz of the way she is. idk why she is that way but she is. heat rises and if it gets hot upstairs and we make it cooler upstairs she will come up and make it hot again just cuz she wants it that way. same in the winter. she wants my husband to buy me the clothes she wants me to wear and not what i want. she wants to tell me how to control my son. and how to raise him. and today she even flipped out bc i didnt tell her brother happy bday on saturday but i wasnt home til 1130 pm and i didnt even know it was his bday. she makes me watch her other grandson with my baby so she can go do what she wants cuz she claims "she has had enough" so she wants to put him on me so i can go crazy. i moved in march of last year and i got married last november, and she made us have the wedding the way she wanted, i was pregnant, and she out dressed me on purpose. and after today i seriously started thinking i wanna pack up my stuff along with my son and husbands and move in with my dad and stepmom which is 40 mins away. but they live in a decent 3 bedroom trailer, with their 1 year old and my husband will probly have to drive an extra 20-25 mins to work every morning. they may not have the kind of housing we have here but they are nicer and good to us and pull through when we need someone. they want us to move in to get away from this witch. neither of them have jobs but they have gotten quite a few settlements for past things and my dad gets disability and a couple other things and my husband is getting his 2nd raise next week so we could prob make it. plus i would have my step mom as a baby sitter so i could get a job then we could either save and get our own place or get a place altogether. my mother in law said she would babysit my son so i could work, then when i found one she said no. does this seem like a good plan? or should i try to stick it out here. i made a mistake by moving here in the 1st place and i dont want to make another dumb decision bc things are difficult. i just need some advice. i just want whats best for my son and husband and myself and us as a family. thanks for all your help :)Hi Amber, i'm sorry to hear about your difficult living situation. I've been there before and I have to tell you that by sticking it out and just hoping it will get better, it won't. It sounds to me like your mother in law has a serious drinking problem, and living in those kind of conditions is toxic for not only you and your husband, but especially your son, and you don't want him to grow up around that type of environment. Have you talked to your husband about this and tell him how you feel? I would talk to him but do it in a manner that won't hurt his feelings because it is his mom after all. Moving in with your mother in law sounds like a better situation living wise for everyone. Sure your husband will have to make a little more of a sacrifice but it will be better in the long run. I wish you the best of luck, and i hope for the best.
She sounds like a raving alcoholic. There's no helping her if she doesn't want to help herself. My suggestion is to get out of there as soon as you can. Your son doesn't need to grow up in that kind of toxic environment. If you have to, get on some government assistance until you can get on your feet. (Don't feel bad, that's what it's there for. We had to be on it for a little while.) Even if you have to move somewhere that isn't ideal, just get out of there. You can always move somewhere better after you get things in order. Anywhere is better than where you are. Another thing to think about, is do you want your son to grow up thinking that that type of behavior your MIL is displaying is acceptable? Do NOT let her babysit him. Tell her that until she gets her act together, that she cannot be with your son unsupervised. As much as I would hate to put my baby in day care, it would be a far better option than having a drunk woman care for him.
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