I think my dad is gay. But I don't know if I should confront him about it.?

-I'm 19 and my parents have been divorced for 11 years because my dad cheated on my mom with another woman. My dad has a son with that woman and he's now 6.

I "found out" that my dad is gay because my brother's mom called me crying because she saw him with one of his friends in a compromising situation. She also told me that when she confronted him, he looked really scared and started shouting things at her. A week later my dad packed his things and left.

When she told me that, I asked my mom if she thought it was possible that my dad might be gay, and she told me that it could be possible because when they were together he asked my mom "to do weird things in bed" (I know, TMI).

The problem is that my dad is very irresponsible and is always traveling, he rarely checks on my brother and I think he's living a double life and I think that's because my family is very homophobic.

It hurts me that he has to hide from all of us, just because some members of my family are ignorant and hateful.

I want to tell him what I know, but I don't know how, and I don't know if I should even tell him. I just want him to know that I love him no matter what and that I don't care who he chooses to love as long as he's happy. But I'm also really mad at him because what he's doing (traveling too much and stuff) it's affecting my brother who thinks my dad doesn't care about him.

What should I do?You all need to talk about it. There's no knowing whether or not it's true. Encourage him to have an honest relationship, because--gay or not-- he needs to be more involved, not more distant (which hints that, yes, he's hiding something).