Lost my cool finally, I beat up my brother?

-For the past few months, my 18 year old brother has been worse than usual. I'm 22, male, and I live by myself. I like to visit my family at my parents house, but every time I do my brother just rips on me. He is so insecure with himself and he cannot stop making horrific comments about me that are outrageously inappropriate. I don't think he likes that I make money, live alone, and I worked damn hard for it. He will project all of his shortcomings on me (no friends, no girlfriend, anti-social, etc) When I watch TV there, he will randomly walk by and punch me in the temple, which is sometimes enough to make me black out. I have tried to be passive and act like he doesn't bother me. He is after all fragile because he had spinal fusion surgery. But today I absolutely just lost it. I share my Netflix subscription with them and he started going through my history on the Xbox... blabbing on and on about what I've watched and trying to discredit me to my parents. I finally had enough and punched him in the face. I wrestled him into a sleeper hold and called him a f**king insecure loser and other things I've held back. My dad intervened and made things worse, and my Mom left crying and I left infuriated. They blamed me for all of it, saying I am the one who hit him first, even though I've literally absorbed hundreds of punches in the temple from him.



My parents are furious with me. My Mom is talking about divorce again. I can't take it anymore. Did I act wrongly?no. siblings always fight, and sometimes you need to let them know their boundaries. tell you parents, privately, how he made you felt and what he did. let them know you won't always flare up like this as long as he becomes more cooperative.
Well it's not ur fault but it would be apporiate to apologize to ur parent.
Just apologize for beating him up... Tell them what he does to you and how you've been trying to deal with it.



Its not your fault hes so insecure he thinks he can bully his own brother.
probably, you shouldve just pressed charges on him instead of going after him yourself
Thats what is wrong with kids today, they are short of a good beating.
Don't go over there. You have your own place.
Kick that little motherfuckers *** again. Jesus I can't beleive it took you that long to hit him no one hits me anywhere on the head without recieving a hit back not even my brother. Sounds like he's a loser whos to scared to make fun of anyone else except his brother who he assumed wouldn't hurt him and now your mom and dad baby him cuz he has no friends so they are angry at you. You were deffinetly right to hit him he sounds like little prick
Well, it happens and indeed he had it coming.



I think you should print out exactly what you wrote above and send it to your parents. Tell them you are sorry you lost your cool, that it will not happen ever again but this is why and that your brother needs to control himself as well or you will not be coming over any more. Also, when things cool down--and they will, maybe you can invite your folks over to your house, to watch tv and for dinner. If you dont cook, pick up something like lasagna and salad at a pizza place. its the thought that counts. Let bratty boy stay home and miss out on the adult conversation.



I am really sorry, familyblowouts scuk. I can still rememebr the time my sister and I had a full-on fist fight right in front of my parents and her boyfriend. Yes she had it coming and of course I won despite being 4 years younger, but guess what? we can laugh about it now. It was mayhem at the time, but even my parents agreed it was a time bomb.



If he is jealous, when you are ready, maybe you can take the high road and help him achieve some of the things you have.