So I hate my mom? And hate my life at home? Please help!! :(?

-I feel really bad for saying this, but I don't feel any love for my mom!



I understand she's under some stress, but it just seems like she doesn't understand that I am too.



My dad and my mom divorced when i was 8, and i moved to a completely new city. problems mostly being my dad was an alcoholic. i have a severely autistic brother who has lots of problems. our whole family lived through this.



i'm 14 now, and my brother still has lots of problems. that i could deal with, it's not his fault for being autistic! but it's my mom! she is such an angry person now i never see her happy and she is constantly yelling yelling yelling yelling!! i cant do anything right with her. shes always so disappointed and unsatisfied with everything i do and everything around her. she just sees it so unfair that things dont always go her way, and since she doesnt want to take it out on my autistic brother, whose left to take it out on??? ME!!



so everyday im getting yelled at. i get to go out with friends only every once in a while. having friends over would just be embarrassing. my relationship with my dad has gotten better, but its still so awkward. so really i have no parent i ever want to talk to.



and the only sport she lets me play is baseball, and i usually get a ride from some really nice people to the games. but she came to todays games and yet again thought of another excuse to get mad saying that i was sitting on the bench to much in the games (even though i was sitting evenly with everyone else). so on the way home she was yelling at me the whole time about how shes not going to drive me to baseball anymore it stresses her out too much u find your own way to pay and get to the games. and that now she is going to only do things that she wants to do.



oh and on top of this all, she has unreasonably high expectations of me!! luckily i have the luck to be a very smart kid; i am 14 and enter calculus 2 next year. but anyway last year in calculus 1 i got an 86/100 on one test and she grounded me for a month (no joke)......yelling at me for how "bad" i did. whats funny is i ended the year with an A!



i just feel too overwhelmed by everything. i hate being at home or around my mom, and thats where i am most of the time!!! and i just cant take it anymore. what do i do to try to be happier????YOU ONLY HAVE ONE MOTHER AND YOU WILL MISS HER WHEN SHE IS GONE SO LOVE HER NOW!
you could possibly move in with your dad
Talk to your Mom, straight out honest. She may yell at you, or ground you, but all the while she will think about what you had said. Also, try being perfect around her. Be your best. She may get angry at you for doing that, or she may lecture you, but she will get the point. (I suggest talking with her) Good luck! (If this helped, please best answer :D)
Well i just wanna say im very sorry about your situation and i hope it gets better. But put yourself in her shoes. Single mother with 2 kids,autistic child,stress at work,etc. Try sitting down and talking to her about this. As for the grades thats just parents get used to it,sucks i know but she just doesnt want you to struggle when you grow up. My advice is to tell her in advance that your not trying to fight. Start off by something like "Mom I understand you have stress but..." or something like that. But once your mother is gone I know you wil realize you do love her.



Good luck
The situation is familiar to me. Try to find a common language with your mom. May be she's lots of problems, try to understand her too. Offer her to walk somewhere in a silent atmosphere. Don't be angry with her. She's gone through many difficulties already. And you are only beginning your life. Your mom needs your understanding. Try to understand her. She loves you but she can't show it right now.
Well, as much as I'd love to just roll out pointers I really can't. Our lives are different but the same at the same time. I'm 15, and my mom is under stress (I don't know if she under a lot of stress but she is under it) and she takes it out on my just like you. I'm not a very social person I can be just I'm a little afraid of making new friends. The ones I have I text or Skype with them here and there. But I guess I'm here to try to fix your problem not mine. First off your mom has no right to do that. Luckily for our parents we can't just ditch them so we can show them how much they need us, but that's where money is an issue. Of course. Anyways, you got to talk to your mom tell her what's bothering you if not talk to your principle. If my mom was like that I'd be up in her face screaming at her then just leave and put a restraining order on her when I'm older. But yeah if you don't talk to her then

you my friend are going to have a difficult life until collage. And if she doesn't listen GET SOMEONE

cause your mom has anger issues and she needs them to be sorted out. Btw my dad and my mom

are going to be divorce I hate my dad and slowly everyday I'm starting to hate my mom more and

more. Lol but yeah I gave you some of my background I guess. I don't know if this will fix anything

but it might just help knowing your not alone. I'm glad I'm not. Also, I agree with some of these people. Your mom is single two kids (mines got 6), stress from work, has to have a horrible child hood (like mine), she may want the best for you. But I'm scared of my mom I don't know what she would do to me if I talked to her. But you really don't have much to lose by talking to her. She might be stressed but she probably isn't to take your clothes away or your bed, etc. So talk to her and if that doesn't help then like I said find som help.
Your situation reminds me of my best friend! And since both your dilemmas are alike I'm more than happy to give you some advice:

- Surround yourself with POSITIVE energy and a pleasant atmosphere. This means, go out with your friends more often (It seems like your mom would yell at you for this too..) but if you find one friend who you can trust with all of these, your long term stress will be reduce!

- Find more hobbies that don't cost too much. Movies, baking, cooking, dancing, gym, etc!

- Maybe do some chores around the house to compensate for your baseball fees?

- Talk MATURELY to your mother about her unrealistic behavior and expectations for you. 86% on Calculus for a 14 year old is beyond... words. Say you understand she's stressful but it's clearly not fair for her to burden you with HER problems which she should deal with MATURELY.

- I know you have an awkward situation with your father but maybe you can spill the beans to him and ask how you can help your mother/fix the problem? I'm not sure how close of a bond you have with him but I'm sure he's more than happy to help since they are divorced, after all, and he wouldn't want you to go through a difficult life.

- When she yells at you for no good reason, calmly ask her why she is yelling at the top of her lungs.. ask her why she can't resolve the matter more calmly and peacefully?



Also, will your mother hit you if you 'talk back' to her? If so.. then not all of these advices may work... goodluck with your relationship with your family. Maybe you can help her figure out her stress and be there for her and maybe she'll feel bad for treating you bad all the time. I know you may not love her now.. my best friend hates her mother to the guts.. and she's already 18 and she's still controlling her life.. I hope it does not end up like this. She never stood up for her rights until recently so maybe you can start early and prevent this from happening down the road.. remember it's not good for a parent to physically and emotionally abuse you.. PARENTS are suppose to support you!



Goodluck love. (: