How can I try to make peace with someone I dislike?

-I've had some issues with my father for years.

He's always been a mean and negative person.

I used to be terrified of him, but now it seems as though I'm the only one in my family,

Who stands up to him.

My mother doesn't even like him herself, she's actually contemplated divorce.

And he's always picking on her about her weight and so on.

I can't sit next to him without getting a weird vibe or feeling....

Also when I do sit near him I just feel sick to my stomach!

He's just an angry, weird, perverse, and rude little man.

He's like 5'4" (barely)

I just can't stand him...Sometimes I wish he didn't exist.

So, how can I just put that aside and move on with my life?You don't have to actually make peace, but you can be civil, even if he isn't.



He sounds like a control freak if he is bugging your mom about her weight.



The best thing to do, probably, is to avoid being too near him if you're uncomfortable -- trust your instincts about that.



And always, ALWAYS, just stick to the facts when talking to him. Don't let him get away with snide comments -- make him explain himself. Hold him accountable to the truth, and get a hold of the idea that just because he says something doesn't make it so.



Good for YOU for moving past a state of terror and standing up to a tyrant. Hopefully your other family members will get there, too.Help him! Your father is probably unhappy with himself and takes it out on others. Constantly encourage your mom, go on runs with her. Ignore insults or put-downs from Dad, and make an effort to be kind to him - you don't want to descend to his level. Spend time with him even if he makes you feel bad - DON'T let him make you feel bad; disregard anything derogatory he says. Encourage him! Smile at him! Do nice stuff for him! Kindness will always be returned.