-I am 26 years old and i have enough money to move into my own apartments but my parents think its really crappy of me to move out cause i'm there only child and i was supposed to own the house when i grew up cause its been in our family for generations but honestly i hate the house! so i really don't picture myself living in it for the rest of my life!!!! my parents said if i were to move out they would have nothing to do to me so what should i do!!!!! oh and i have a job that pays enough money so i'm financially stable!!!!Well if you want to leave, then your an adult, you can get out whenever you want to. If you don't need them then they can't control your life in any way. So you just need to leave and move on with your life. I'm sure they are just saying that because they hate to see you go, but once you are away over some time I'm sure you will be able to make up in the future. But it'll be sad on your end if you end up a 40 year old living with your parents. Everyone needs to leave at some point. If your ready then you need to go.
Your parents are behaving obsessionally. It is not loving someone to say they would reject you if you moved on. I would get out of there as quickly as possible and tell them that if they have nothing more to do with you, that is their decision, not yours. Perhaps it would help if you confided in a trustworthy member of the family, if you have one.
Man, no disrespect, but your parents sound selfish. If you can move out, do it. I'm sure if you're their only child, they'll forget about being mad at you. Plus, (just 'cause I'm sneaky like this :]) You can use your only child status for your benefit. Remind them that if they have nothing to do with you, they won't have a child anymore. So it's the house, or me. I'm sure they'll come to their senses. Good luck! God bless! - Allie . xx
Well, as you said you're 26 years old. It's time to get your big boy/girl pants on and stand up for yourself. They are more than likely giving you an empty threat. if you are there only child (or their 30th) they should love you unconditionally.
Do what you want to do in this situation, but let them know no matter where you live you're still their child and you still love them.
Ask yourself, if they were to disown you for being independent are they good parents?
You are 26 years old you don't need their approval anymore! Just move out!
Move out! of course their still going to talk to you if they love you.
Get out and go live your life. Your parents are just trying to hang something over your head, and being horrible parents in the process. In reality, if they don't even want you to leave, I've no doubt that once the dust settles they'll be glad you're in their life, period.
That said, it sounds like they may be a little scared for you to leave, also...otherwise, they'd not put such restraint out there. Go find yourself an apartment or buy yourself something you like, and once that's squared away, tell them you're going, and that you LOVE them, and appreciate everything they've done for you, but that it's time for you to go live your life. Let them know they'll be a part of it and that you'll visit frequently. If they're too upset to even agree to "see you" (which from the sounds of it, they may initially say), then tell them that's alright...they'll have your information and can change their mind at any time. Then, go be a man.
Good luck to you; I know this isn't an easy situation, but I've no doubt it's one you'll be glad you're out of, once you finally are. 26-years-old and about to get your own place, finally...they should be proud. If they're not, be proud for yourself and enjoy your freedom.
i see, if i understand well you dont move out because you feel bad for not obey your father, in other words you feel in debt with him and therefore you are unable to disobey your dad. I had a friend to live something similar situation, but in his case he seem kidnapped. The case is his father are some crazy, psychopath i think.So his dad always treat him like a crap and to cap he dont like his son live away from him.
First he accept because not was prepared to live lonely, but after a few years my friends was tired for the abuse of his dad. So finally he decided to said him "dad im sorry but im going to live alone" the dad not like and loomed to kill him if he attempt going away. after he talked with me we have a idea. First i called to his house for offer a good job for one month in another country, his dad answer the call, he said "im sorry but my son not are interesting" this is obviously false.
Finally the son inform to the dad for the call, he not very happy but finally accept, after all it was just for one month. The case is my friend never return to the country, not even call to his dad. And as he was such a coward he dont attempt to leave the country for search your son. Well this is the story, good luck and see ya.
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